difficult yet productive and successful week
(as you know I went to the UK last thursday
like any parent i adore my child
storm and i have been through alot together
and we have been the one constant in one anothers
lives for the last 16 years
we have a solid loving and fun relation
and living together is generally easy and agreeable
yet for 5 years I have begged bribed screamed and cried
at my son to work at school
the education system in france is fierce and unforgiving
everything works on averages and doors close fast
options are quickly limited and many late bloom kids
under achieve in life
for months I have been battling with a dilemma
what to do for my son
16 out of education and lost in france
when we arrived here in 2001 he was 7
and got an average report grade of 17/20
this time last year his average mark was 4/20
and he was hanging out with the
drug dealers being groomed
so for nearly a year he has been by my side
helping me with my work
painting furniture and doing the housework
no life for an adolescent lad
he refused education and wants to work
sadly in france youngsters cannot work until 18
when we went to the careers advisor the lady
having been told by storm that he was
interested in tourism suggested
my intelligent bilingual son consider eventually
working as a chambermaid!
UK kids can work at 16 if they wish
and so eventually son and father
(who lives in england)
reluctantly relented and saw the logic of storm living in the UK
so last week
I handed my beloved boy over to the
care of this dad
my beautiful boy sent me a card with a lottery ticket and love
yesterday storm had his first interview in a country house hotel
and hoorah he has been offered a 2 week trial in the kitchen
and if he performs
(he is expected to be able to cook a tiptop English breakfast
by the end of his fortnight)
a position as trainee chef/goffer
a position as trainee chef/goffer
which entails 4 days hotel work/1 day college a week
even storm says he can swallow a day a week at study
and it is ironic that the dish he is expected to russle up
is his absolute favorite a 'full english breakfast'
and that I know he can swallow
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11 comments:
You made me cry Momma....Oh I can't even begin....you are such a wonderful Mom you put him first and he is going to soar......Thinking of you!
What a sweet boy/man! You obviously did a good job xx
tears and hugs xo
Wow! Your heart must be breaking and yet be proud and pleased that Storm may have found his niche.
Thinking of you!
I understand.
Being a Mom is far from easy, that's for sure!
It is so hard to push them out of the nest and then to suffer their absence. Be well.
thanks one 'n all
for your kind words
and support
as usual
x
*Hugs* This must be such a tough time for you, but its so great that he has been offered this new work position..He sounds like an amazing young man!Sending you positive,happy thoughts.. :-)
I can appreciate the difficulty of making this change. In my son's second year of high school he also was getting with the wrong group of people. I had to send him to live with his grandparents for the last 2 years of schooling. Fortunately for me it was close enough we could visit several times a month and we talked on the phone several times a week. In fact we talked more when he did not live with me.
I would rather have had him with me but I did what I had to do for a better future for him.
Even though their parenting ways and mine were not the same. I had to hope I had done my best for 16 years.
Because your on is being given a new challenge in a job he should enjoy hopefully he will get back on a good path.
you are very strong and you are setting a good example for your son. Fill him with love and know you are doing the right thing. Remember to take care of yourself too.
I'm so glad your son is in a good place. Oh, I know how heavy your mother's heart must be. I went through a similar situation with my own children, where they wanted to finish school back in their hometown...1200 miles away where their father lives. Have a lovely day ~ xox Alexandra
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